A little background info; in 2002 I had to have one of my front teeth pulled. When this had to be done I was really upset about losing a front tooth and almost immediately got a partial. That is when the problems started. My dentist at the time had a really hard time getting the partial to fit properly and once she did all seemed well. I then noticed that every time I wore it I would get a headache and it just wasn't that comfortable. Finally, a couple of years ago; I got so frustrated with it that I just threw the partial away. I thought if people couldn't look past the fact that I had a tooth missing then maybe they weren't worth me knowing.
Fast forward to yesterday. I was talking with my MIL and she was telling me how one of her front teeth broke off while she was eating the other day. She said that she was going to the dentist and getting it fixed no matter what the cost and that her sister said she looked weird/funny without the tooth there. She also said something to the effect of "I feel like a Beverly Hillbilly" or something like that. I told her that it wasn't so bad. I told her that I would like to eventually get mine fixed but money wise it wasn't a priority. She then told me that I should get it fixed before I go to school. It makes me wonder what she really thinks of me??
It amazes me how a few little comments from someone can undo the all of the positive outlook that I struggled so hard to have!
So indulge me and answer this; "how important are looks in the grand scheme of things?"
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In the Grand scheme of things, do these little comments really make a difference in how you view yourself? Looks are definitely not important to me, nor do I judge on them. But sometimes people say things that they don't even realize without knowing they are hurting someone's feelings. So in the grand scheme of things, do these things really matter? You know you are a good wife, mother and grandmother. You can tell that about a person!
ReplyDeleteGoing to school has no bearing on whether or not you have a tooth. Going to school has to do with bettering yourself. So I feel sorry for those that judge you on a missing tooth and you my dear friend need to not hold any weight to those that might not know better. And stop finding your worth based on what people say! I know I need to learn what I preach, but I give better advice than learning it myself. :0) chin up!
Thanks Mandie. You are so right. I think it tends to bother me more when it's family because I always thought family was supposed to love you for you and not judge you based on your looks.
ReplyDeleteThe people that love us the most seem to have the most power to hurt us the most. I don't think you are being judged :0) hugs
ReplyDeleteSusan, I'd like to say that looks don't matter. I really, really would. But I just saw a report that said "Good looking people get hired easier." I've also seen where the "pretty girl" gets "this or that" over the not so pretty girl........So it would seem there is a little truth to the question. However, that said, I have seen your pictures over and over for the last 2 years... and I've never "noticed" you had a tooth missing. Even though I've seen it missing, I never "noticed". So, I would say, once someone knows you, it's not a big deal... but the outside world can be cruel and judgmental. If you're happy with how things are, then who cares what anyone else thinks.
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